What It Really Means to Be Unbothered (And How to Start Living That Way)
What if being unbothered wasn’t about being cold or careless — but about being centered?
For years, I thought being “unbothered” meant pretending things didn’t hurt me. Silencing my voice. Shrinking my presence. But I’ve come to understand something deeper:
Being unbothered is an act of self-respect.
It’s a mindset of peace — not passivity.
It’s knowing what you will carry, and what you’ll lovingly set down.
June on Substack was “Unbothered Month” — and what a month it’s been. Through stories, spiritual reflections, and conversations, I unpacked what it looks like to live unbothered in a world that constantly tries to pull us out of alignment.
Being Unbothered Looks Like:
Saying no without guilt.
Letting go without bitterness.
Choosing yourself without apology.
Not attending every argument you’re invited to.
Sipping your tea, fixing your crown, and remembering who you are.
It’s not about being emotionless — it’s about being anchored.
This Month, I Shared:
A story about a woman who chose healing over hostility after divorce.
A reflection on how our childhood survival strategies show up in adulthood — and how to shift from reaction to intention.
A Sunday meditation on prayer is a quiet power and how our Father Sees Us.
Each piece was written to help you practice sacred stillness, regardless of the noise.
Want to Catch Up?
You can read all the stories and join the journey here:
Love by Design | Toni Jackson Lampley | Substack
Ready to Be Unbothered?
Here’s your starting point:
Take 3 deep breaths.
Ask yourself: What am I holding that isn’t mine?
Let that thing go — gently, without shame.
Choose peace over performance. Every time.
Being unbothered is not a trend. It’s a design choice.
You were made for peace — not pressure.
With love,
Toni